As adults our beliefs are often instilled into us as children. The most common word a child hears daily is “No!”. Our words have to inspire our little ones to make them open to possibilities and not closed off and limited.

Casual non-complimentary statements said to a young impressionable child will leave an imprint and can effect their future self identity.

Children’s subconscious minds absorb information as fact and therefore statements made about them shape their future. This is often where they acquire fears and limitations. In an earlier blog I mentioned how thoughts affect our futures but we have to be aware that our energy and words shape our precious children.

Try to eliminate all the negative statements such as you can not be or you will not amount to much. Why not instead focus on the good traits and build up their confidence? We can tell them when something is unacceptable or dangerous, but pay greater emphasis on actions and behaviours that were positive. It is normally the reverse and we spend more time telling a child off rather than praising them. Open their minds up to love, visualisation and creative possibility.

Remember our current circumstances do not limit our future potential only our self talk and limited imagination does that. Our children have their owns paths they are not vehicles to make our unfulfilled dreams come true. Our roles are to support them with kindness and love. Thus hopefully in the later parts of our lives they will want to care for our wellbeing as we would have cultivated a close bond throughout the years.

Encourage children and enjoy your time with them since in a blink of an eye they will be all grown up and flown the nest. Lead by example; children take on the views and characteristics of their parents. It is often forgotten what an amazing precious gift it is to be a parent and how much unconditional abundant love there is in this unique biological union.

Think about the words you use around our little seedlings since these words will impact on their character when they are older. Shower them with your time, patience plus love and nature will do the rest for you.

Sending love and blessings x

I carry out a daily practice of gratitude and will note things I am grateful for down on my phone or take a photo. Studies show reflecting on the good things that have happened throughout the day dampens down stress hormones and release serotonin the happy hormone. Subsequently this has a knock on effect of boosting the immune system.

We tend to let the last few thoughts in our head whirl around till we finally fall asleep. So doing this practice just before going to bed helps reduce mental tension and when we are relaxed mentally and physically we are more likely to have a restful night sleep.

Sharing my gratitudes for today;

• The beautiful sunshine warming my skin as I go for a long walk with my family.
• Freshly picked lemon mint tea.
• Meeting friends for like minded conversation and being surprised with with a hospitality experience.
• Lovely watermelon with mint and a squeeze of lime for a great summer pudding.
• Gratitude that all my friends and family are healthy and safe.
• Gratitude for the long bank holiday weekend and an extra holiday with loved ones.

Keep a little notebook by the side of your bed and start a gratitude journal and you will automatically start focusing on all the daily blessings. It is also lovely to look back through when energy levels dwindle to help boost you back up.

Sending love and blessings x

Man is the maker of his own destiny and that thoughts and acts are the tools with which he does the making. 

Sending love and blessings x

We are surrounded by so many news stories but it is very important to spend as much time reading or listening to uplifting stories as you spend listening to negative news stories.

It can feel that the world is a very bad place and that we are under constant threat and thus should feel fearful. The reality is that so many good things happen daily and the positive news does not always get the same airtime. We should take time to see the good without denying the negative.

Even during the worst times kindest always shines through.

Fear will never heal the world only love can change the future.

Sending love and blessings x

Knowing others is wisdom.

Knowing the self is enlightenment.

Mastering others required force.

Mastering self needs strength.

~Lao Tsu

 
The class of those who have the ability to

think their own thoughts is separated by an

unbridgeable gulf from the class of those

who cannot.

~Ludwig Von Mises

I wanted to share this fable.

A palace housed a hall of one thousand mirrors. A dog wanders in and finds himself in this mirrored hall. Confronted with the one thousand mirror images, he growls and barks at the perceived threats. The reflections return his growing a thousand times over. The dog in turn becomes more aggressive to a point of complete exhaustion and drops down dead.

A short time after, another dog entered the hall of a thousand mirrors. This dog also saw that he was surrounded by a thousand dogs in response he wagged his tail with joy and in return the mirror dogs happily wagged their tails back at him. Feeling joyful this dog found a way out of the palace.

The moral of the story is what you reflect out reflects back at you.

Sending love and blessings x

The word wide web allows us to have instant access to information at our finger tips.

The upside is that we are now more globally connected on a virtual level but on a physical level we are now more unconnected with surveys showing more loneliness and isolation. We know intimate details about strangers but may not know the name of the neighbour two doors down from us.

Internet access allows us to be nosey about other peoples lives and we compare our everyday lives to the best edited version’s via social media. This leaves us feeling that we are coming up short, feeling failures and not good enough.

Ultimately we are responsible for what we allow to come into our minds in what we choose to view and listen to. Selectivity is important since the content you watch will affect you on an energy and emotional level. In this 24/7 internet age we can easily find sources of inspiration and therefore uplift and boost our self esteem.

Investment is needed in our own lives rather than focusing too much on what others are doing. Social media is great and has many upsides but as  long as we don’t forget to be social in the physical sense. Real time with family & friends and physical contact  releases the hormone Oxytocin which helps to contract the effects of stress.

Screen time should be carefully regulated and greater time outside should take precedence as this promotes good health via balancing our circadian rhythms and hormones cycles.

Global communities are growing but this should not be at the expense of our local communities. Lets forge more human connections rather than just internet connections!

Sending love and blessings x

This famous song has been sung all over the world the words were written by John Newton in 1779. John Newton was a slave trader and profited well from it. During a return journeys back to Ireland his ship became involved in a violent storm endangering everyone on board. In desperation he called out to God for mercy this marked a spiritual turning point for him, the ship and everyone on board survived. John spent most of his later years as an anti slavery campaigner. His words have continued to resonate through this song.

This shows our paths are never set in stone no matter how many wrongs we have done in the past we can still find the right path and do the right thing.

Also we find ourselves crying for help when we have no other avenue but this help is always available to us 24/7. Send out prayers in the good times and well as in the hard times. Grace surrounds us constantly

Amazing Grace! How sweet the sound.

That saved a wretch like me.

I once was lost, but now am found.

Was blind, but now I see.

Twas grace that taught my heart to fear.

And grace my fears relieved.

How precious did that grace appear.

Pay heed to your thoughts as they will become words.

Pay heed to your words as they will become deeds.

Pay heed to your deeds as they will become habits.

Pay heed to your habits as they will become your character.

Pay heed to your character as it will become your destiny.

sending love and blessings x